The Dorset Phoenix Journals



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I am now divorced longer than I was married and in the ten plus years that followed his leaving, I went from victim to survivor, warrior to a queen.  I met some wonderful people on my journey of discovery, found myself and put the demons of my past to rest. 

If you will allow me, I would love to share my stories with you as they are published.  No matter what stage you are at there will be something for you.

I’d also like to send you resources from time to time, that will help you rise from the ashes of your own divorce.  And if I don’t meet your expectations, you can simply unsubscribe.

Do you ever find yourself searching? Reaching for self-help and personal development books, reading your astrology predictions, or just wondering if there is a piece of information that everyone else has about the magic formula of life, and you don’t?

Welcome To The Journey Of Women After Divorce

The Dorset Phoenix's life story

Hi, and thank you for taking the time to visit.

The chances are you are experiencing or have experienced a catalyst. An event that has uprooted your very grounding and left you wondering who you are. What happened to your hopes and dreams?  Maybe your divorce has caught you unawares in mid-life. Or maybe you are in a lost relationship which you have already grieved for.

For a while, you might think you are comfortable being uncomfortable. Still, there will come the point where you decide to re-evaluate your whole life and work out who you are and what you want out of life to give you fulfilment and peace of mind.

To make sure you don’t feel so alone in this journey, I invite you to join me in an honest account of my life’s ups and downs. I share with you the laughter and tears as I overcome the everyday challenges, such as debt management and financial planning, running a home and family, the stress of building a business and buying and selling the family home. Divorce, mid-life crisis, dating, soul searching and learning to dance. The things for which there is no handbook.

I don’t mean to just write a few hundred words for the sake of it. If my blog tells a story that resonates with you and you need to know more from me, just connect with me

I want you to know that you are not alone in the search for a better life and my aim is to inspire you to try and achieve whatever it is that will bring you peace of mind and happiness.

Tina aka The Dorset Phoenix

What I hope you will get from reading my blog

Womenafterdivorce.com is a resource to help anybody struggling to find themselves, where ever they are, whatever stage of life, be it a change of career, the trials of parenthood, the exhaustion and loneliness of being a carer, the responsibility of being home or business owner; or dealing with empty nest or retirement.

The tales from the ashes are my stories where I write about my crash and burn and rising from the ashes, more that once. Vulnerable and raw, I share them with you to inspire and give you hope.  And I offer tools and insights of ways that have helped me overcome adversity, the things that worked and the things that didn’t. The books I bought, the audio and podcasts I listened to.  The people I surrounded myself with and where I found my greatest solace.

I have realised that my passion is a passion for life.  It has not always been easy and I have come to appreciate that life is a bit of a roller coaster ride. But oddly enough, I only noticed I was strapped to it when things were going wrong, I never noticed I was strapped to it when things were going right.  There is a lot to be gained from learning to live in the moment!  So, I want you to share with me the tears of pain and joy of my stories and I would love for you to write in the comments below each blog, let me know about the effect they may have on you.  

About my Blog and the people in my stories

The purpose of womenafterdivorce.co.uk is to help you understand that you are a gorgeous and worthy human being.  It is a blog sharing my personal journal, delving very deeply and sharing inner personal thoughts and feelings of life from my perspective.  That is not to say if you were to speak to anybody involved in any of my stories, they wouldn’t give you a different side / tell a different story.  There are always two sides to every story. How I write depends on my emotion in the moment, and whether I am writing from my open wounds or my scars.

I’ve dealt with being a parent, sibling, had divorced parents, been divorced myself, lived with an alcoholic, lived with depression – both my own and that of people around me; experienced love and loss, business success and failure, debt to the point of almost becoming homeless; and had decorating, DIY, dating and other disasters.  Many people I share my experiences with can relate and often joke that I should write a book.

So now, with courage and vulnerability, I share these stories. Not because I want vengeance on people that I believe could have treated me better; no, no – I love and have loved all of the people in my stories, and I am unbelievably grateful to them for stepping into my life.  Yes, it might be said that if they wanted me to write nice things about them then perhaps, they should have treated me better, but my behaviour isn’t always perfect, and they could probably say the same of me.

And to those wonderful people mentioned in my stories, I do love you all.  You have had an amazing effect on my life, and I would not be this person without you in it.  This is how it was for me, and I have learned so much from you and in so doing, gained the courage to rise from the ashes multiple times, to become the woman I am today.  Whatever we have gone through together is a treasured memory that is uniquely ours, and I will never find a way to repay you, other than to live my life authentically and with love as a legacy to the time we have shared on this earth together.  

Without things happening just the way they did, at just the times they did, I would not be the person I am today.

How I make money from my blog

In the spirit of full disclosure, you should know that I will point you towards a variety of products/services on my pages and in my blog posts, and wherever possible, I will use affiliate links.  If you follow [Click on] an affiliate link and go on to purchase that product or service, I may be paid a small commission, or given credits with that service.  However, your cost will be the same (or in some cases, if I have negotiated a discount, they may be less).

This may then lead you to question whether I am promoting this product/service to make money, or recommending it because I feel it is in your best interests. My ultimate aim is to help people gain value through my experience, so I won’t recommend a product unless I have:

  • Used it personally, found it to be of value and think it may be of value to you.
  • Researched it and received first-hand feedback from others whom I trust and who have used the product or service.

I give a lot of valuable information away for free because I want to help women after divorce to live their best lives, and affiliate links are one of the ways I get paid for the time I spend on writing articles and learning how to best serve you, my wonderful readers.

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